Ayaq kiyimning júby teng bolghanymen birdey emes. Onyn sol ayaghyna, solyn ong ayaghyna tetir kie alasyng ba? Kie almaysyn. Kýshtep kiyseng ayaghyndy auyrtyp, eki basy eki baghytqa qarap túrady. Búlay úzaq uaqyt jýre de almaysyn. Áyelden erkek jasau da solay.

Áyel men erkek teng be? Ten! Biraq birdey emes.

Árqaysysynyng óz tabighaty men bolmysyna say minezi men mindeti bolugha tiyis. Áyel balasy bala tapsa, tabighatyna say analyq mindetin atqarghany emes pe? Áyel kýieuine dәmdi tamaghyn úsynyp, kiyimin juyp, jaghdayyn jasap jatsa, múny kem bolghany ýshin emes, erin, balalarynyng әkesin qúrmet tútqany ýshin jasaydy. Otbasy jyluyn arttyru ýshin isteydi.

Erkek pen әiel esh aiyrmashylyqsyz birdey bolghanda, Alla erkek-әiel dep bólip jatpay bir ghana jaratylys jasar edi.

Bizding qoghamymyzda әiel balasy dәl býgingidey erkin bolghan emes. Oquyn oqyp, qalaghanyn kiyip, baratyn jerine emin-erkin baryp jýr. Júmys isteymin degeni júmysyn, jeke kәsippen ainalysamyn degeni kәsibin dóngeletude.

Túrmystyq zorlyq-zombylyqtyng aldyn alu ýshin arnayy zang bar. Zorlyq kórgen әiel kisiler telefon shalyp, dabyl qaqsyn. Sotqa bersin. Zang júmys istemese, sony kótersin. Al túrmystyq zorlyq-zombylyqty syltauratyp, “jatyrym ózimdiki”, “ana bolu mindet emes” sekildi teksizdik pen arsyzdyqty nasihattau, ghasyrlar boyy jalghasyp kele jatqan otbasy qúndylyqtaryna shabuyl jasau qazaqtyng bolashaghyna balta shabu.

Qoghamymyzda әielin adam qúrly kórmeytin, bolmashy nәrsege bola kók-ala etip sabaytyn, kez-kelgen jaghdayda әieldi kinәli etip shygharatyn erkekter de, kelinin kýng sekildi kóretin eneler de bar. Ony joqqa shyghara almaymyz. Osynday nadandyqpen aghartushylyq arqyly, zannyng ayasynda kýresuimiz kerek. Biraq búlarmen kýresemiz dep, әielge sheksiz erkindik beru, nekesiz jynystyq qatynasty mәdeniyet, jezókshelikti adal qúqyly mamandyq etudi súrau adasu, qoghamdy búzu bolmaq.

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